I suppose the good news here is, the nuclear-war plan has trended upward since 1997. I’m traveling today. I am in Demopolis, Alabama, “City of the People.” You should Google it. It has a very interesting history. It was founded in the early 19th century by Bonapartists, political exiles from France after the return of Royalist government there. The settlers in west Alabama established what became known as “the vine and olive colony.” They thought they would be able to grow these crops, because the soil and climate reminded them of Bordeaux. They were wrong about that. There was a John Wayne movie supposedly set in French Demopolis that bore no relation whatsoever to anything that ever really happened.
240 responses to “Insect Aside II”
sorry, and it’s not just the mourning a loss but all the stuff to deal with
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Debbe. That death is a part of life is a sad truth with which we must deal, but I know from bitter experience how difficult that can be to do. Prayers and hugs, hon.
I am glad that you were able to see her and spend some time with her so recently.
Debbie dear, there’s little I can add to what has already been said. Losing your mom leaves a hole like no other but knowing that she was ready to go does help a little. If this Village could all be there in person, you’d be smothered by the hugs!
I’ll be praying for you, my almost sister-wife-whatever. Of all my close relatives who have passed, only my mother did so slowly. The rest of us have had sudden cardiac arrests; I’m the only one to survive one.
Debbe: Like Ruth Anne (and others) said… It is hard but you will work your way through it. Many, many hugs and prayers. We love you!
Debbe – prayers & hugs from northern Indiana (Logansport), too.
-Steve Moore
Debbie – Prayers from the Chicago area
…and also from northern Illinois, Debbe.
Dear Debbe, so very sorry for the sudden, painful bad news. Sending hugs from New Hampshire and please tell Ian that all your friends are thinking of him, too.
I’ve said it before in condolence cards, Debbe—it doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, the time of loss is a time of grief. The Village does care. Prayers from Arizona. And as Charlotte said above, give Ian an extra hug and tell him it’s from The Village.
We all know that it’s coming, but not today, please, not today! But tomorrow will be today very quickly so if you still have things that need to be said, say it today. Make that telephone call now. The two beautiful young ladies that were killed in Louisiana, I wonder what was the last thing said to them by their husband, parents, boyfriend. I hope that it was “I love you”.
Oh Debbe – I am so sorry. Many hugs to you and your family.
Debbe you know I have walked in your shoes recently, so losing your mom, even after a long life is still hard even when you know she was suffering. My love and big crushing hugs goes out to you and your husband and son.
And yes, I sign everything I write with “love” and tell everybody they are loved, both those I am related to and those who are friends. You cannot say that too much, life is too ephemeral to count on another opportunity.
Love Jackie
Debbe, my condolences too. May God give peace and strength to you and your family.
Debbe:
Sorry, thoughts and prayers.
Memorial service at BSU today for a beloved retired faculty member and director of summer writing workshops. Most recent occupation: doting on figure-skating granddaughter, twelvish.
Peace, emb
Good morning Villagers…..
Thank you all for the heartfelt condolences, this Village is my home away from home.
Spent yesterday making calls, my other two sisters went shopping for something nice for Mom to wear. Mom always dressed up and she wore it well. Down to her Este Lauder foundation. I loved the recent arc on makeup on the real time strips I haven’t worn makeup since my Stepdad passed…..so I bought a foundation yesterday…all the time thinking of JJ’s storyline.
Today, I will be focusing on the good times Mom and I shared….like one of the times she visited me in Corpus. We went shopping and she bought us felt/wool fedora hats…hers was a cream color and of course I chose black….I still have that fedora.
We went by my Dad’s yesterday to tell him about Mom. We walked into the living room, he looked up and said “well, one of you brats are missing!” He cried, and he asked me if it would be ok for him to come to the funeral home. I told him yes, and I just didn’t want him to breeze in and out….I wanted him to stay for awhile as we girls will need him.
It’s going to be hard to get Ian out of his bed this morning…..wish me luck, as he needs to work and not stay in his room….besides, he needs the money if he truly wants to move to E’vill.
My one little niece has a job interview in West Virginia on Tuesday. I simply stated that if they couldn’t reschedule the interview due to the circumstances, then it would not be facility I would want to work for due to lack of consideration…it would not be a good interview knowing she would be returning to Grandma’s viewing on Wednesday. If they can reschedule the interview, hopefully the viewing will be Tuesday. I don’t want to sound callous, but all this waiting is hard on everyone.
love to all
I hope you all don’t mind me posting the next few days, I just need to come here…you all are very therapeutic.
Debbe,
Late prayers and thoughts for you and your family. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. Prayers and hope for everyone. God bless us every one.
Debbe: Chin up, girl… you can do it!
{{{{Debbe}}}}}
FYI, likely in our future cataracts will be easily managed with eyedrops. http://m.digitaljournal.com/life/health/scientists-have-developed-an-eye-drop-that-dissolves-cataracts/article/439248
Debbe, if you can’t come here to vent some frustration or get some support, we would be poor neighbors.
I have a nice red Fedora and a leather Fedora ala Indiana Jones. I would love to see you in your black Fedora.
Debbe, your story of shopping with your Mom, and of her buying you a fedora, reminded me of something about my sister. She loved to shop, but only for bargains. I honestly don’t think she ever paid list price for anything. She was always buying gadgets/knickknacks for my Mom and me that she discovered on her shopping expeditions. I must have two or three dozen of them just in my kitchen.
This morning as I was preparing lunch to carry to my Mom at her apartment, I opened a drawer and spied a pair of salad tongs my sister had given me at least ten years ago. She had found them at a dollar store, originally priced at $1.00, then marked down to 50 cents, then to 25 cents, and finally to 10 cents, which naturally she could not resist paying for them. So now I have a pair of ugly, blue, 10-cent, plastic, but priceless salad tongs to remind me of my sister every time I see them. As priceless as the memories we carry for our departed loved ones.
Nice morning doing laundry for first time in a month. I have discovered you will not die if you use a towel again or wear something a second time. Novel experience to find out toxic body rot doesn’t set in.
Off to toss in dryer.
Debbe, the Village IS home and you are a mighty denizen of its foundation.
Love Jackie
Right, Ghost. It’s not the gift, it’s the giver that makes the memory special!
And speaking of bargains, I’ve got a few suggestions. You know those insulated tumblers that sell for $10- $25 in the stores? Check your local flea market and see if anybody is selling imperfect prints or business ad overrun versions. I have found them here for $2-$3. Same for daypacks, legal pad holders, travel mugs, etc. Sometimes t-shirts and picnic blankets.
And if you are in an area that has one of these places, it’s fun just to see what they have got: http://www.bargainhunt.com/
One unique feature of their stores is that the longer an item is in stock there, the lower the price gets. Went to one with my neighbor yesterday and she got a brand new pair of shoes at 60% off and a watch for 40% off.